Pre-Bae is your crush.
Last week we discussed, 1v1 The Road to Pre-Bae and how to get on that road to finding your Pre-Bae. What is “Pre-Bae,” you may ask? It’s just someone that you’re getting to know, you’re dating, you’re kicking it with… your crush, the person you want to “swan dive in their DMs” with, as Huey so eloquently puts!
The Road to Pre-Bae is the process of figuring out how to get back on the dating scene, being vulnerable, facing the various challenges, and exposing yourself to the opportunities in front of you. Just remember, you have to take into account that there is a sense of vulnerability when getting back into dating. Figure out your core values, walk in your truth, and discover what it is you truly want on your Road to Pre-Bae.
Remember to be honest with others about your expectations. For instance, if you’re dating multiple people at the same time, give them a heads up so that you’re on the same page with your current date and be honest with yourself about your expectations, as well. Sometimes our very own expectations can be unrealistic and hold us back from finding not only what we truly want, but what we truly need.
“An opportunity for all of us to be honest about who we are and making sure that people understand our expectations, making sure that we set expectations before we enter into any relationship, situationship, whatever – just set your expectations and be honest upfront. That’s always an opportunity.” ~ Trixie
When you live in your truth, experiences begin to change and your circles begin to grow. You start to discover things about yourself that you didn’t even know before, and that opens your dating pool even more on your Road to Pre-Bae! Most of all remember not to take things too seriously and enjoy yourself. Learn to laugh and be fully present in the moment. Happy Pre-Bae hunting!
Three things to take away from Chapter 1v1 of the Book of Huey:
Love your MF-ing self. Live your truth. In every stage of the game, whether you succeed, fail, or fuck up, love yourself immensely. If you love yourself the way you’re supposed to you’ll be graceful, hopeful, merciful, forgiving, and challenge yourself to be your best despite your failures and mistakes.
We all make mistakes and do things we’re not proud of. The biggest part of growth and maturity is to be able to look at yourself naked and accept who you are with every flaw.
- Self-love is knowing who you are with sober judgment.