I’m Not Your Fetish Bitch!

Last week, in Episode 1v1 The Road to Pre-Bae, we discussed what it means to feel as though you have been objectified and fetishized in the eyes of another person. Also, we addressed how one’s sense of self-esteem has a personal effect on his or her overall dating life.  

Check out this question one listener had for our Trix with the Fix segment:

“I’m an Afro-Latina woman with a very curvaceous Latina look. Because of my look, a lot of men tend to right away fetishize me and put me into that sex kitten hot Latina role. They right away want me to always be sexy, speak Spanish to them especially in the bedroom, and play that hot Latina role they’ve always dreamed of. I don’t want to be anyone’s fetish… I don’t even speak Spanish. How do I let these guys know that I actually am more than what they’ve fetishized me to be?

Sincerely,

I’m not your fetish… Bitch”

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The Road to Pre-Bae

Pre-Bae is your crush.

Last week we discussed, 1v1 The Road to Pre-Bae and how to get on that road to finding your Pre-Bae. What is “Pre-Bae,” you may ask? It’s just someone that you’re getting to know, you’re dating, you’re kicking it with… your crush, the person you want to “swan dive in their DMs” with, as Huey so eloquently puts!

The Road to Pre-Bae is the process of figuring out how to get back on the dating scene, being vulnerable, facing the various challenges, and exposing yourself to the opportunities in front of you. Just remember, you have to take into account that there is a sense of vulnerability when getting back into dating. Figure out your core values, walk in your truth, and discover what it is you truly want on your Road to Pre-Bae.

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The Book of Huey Podcast

The Book of Huey Podcast has the pleasure of introducing you to our host, Huey Booker. Originally from Cleveland, Ohio, Huey has been in the Washington, D.C. area since 2014. 

They have a dedicated aim and focus. Huey has some of the dopest, funniest, most inciteful conversations with his friends. Within all the shenanigans and jokes, there are frequent profound moments and lots of quotable gems. With the idea that other folks could benefit from, or at the very least, be highly amused by listening in on these convos, he created a safe, judgment-free space to discuss love, sex, life, dating, relationships, fuckery, and advice with ray honesty and humor.

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Pragma

September 30, 2016

Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia, Storge

We’ve been writing about love for quite some time now.  In many ways, being diligent and consistent has really helped me to reevaluate a lot of what I thought I knew about love and its many different expressions.  

This week, we’ll be discussing pragma or mature, practical love.  Pragma is about making compromises to help relationships work over time, as well as showing patience and tolerance.  It’s the kind of love that’s practical, mutually-beneficial, and endures through sickness and in health over the long-haul.  As a special surprise, I’m going to introduce our first guest contributor, M. Divine.

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Ludus

September 7, 2016

Love Isn’t EnoughEros

So, last week we talked about passionate, romantic love.  This week we’re going to talk about ludus, but I have a slight confession to make.  I kind of cheated.  Ludus is actually Latin and not Greek, but whatever.  It means “play, game, sport, training” and refers to the affection between children or young lovers.

While ludus is about passion, it more so encapsulates the idea of having fun with each other doing different activities.  It encompasses all the teasing and flirting that goes on in the early stages of a dating relationship.  It happens when you both are still testing out what it might be like to be together, falling in love and what not, but that’s where it all ends.  You see, in ludus, there is no commitment or responsibility involved.

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Eros

August 31, 2016

Love Isn’t Enough

As I mentioned before, the ancient Greeks were very sophisticated in their understanding of the many different expressions of love.  The first type that we’re going to talk about is eros.  Eros was the Greek god of fertility and, in terms of love, constitutes a passionate, intense, and erotic or lustful desire for someone.  In addition to its strong sexual and emotional components, eros is also marked by compassion, kindness, and consideration, as well as the desire to be emotionally and physically close to your romantic partner.  It is this powerful sexual magnetism that draws two people together in the beginning stages of a new relationship sometimes described as the honeymoon phase.  

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