I’m Not Your Fetish Bitch!

Last week, in Episode 1v1 The Road to Pre-Bae, we discussed what it means to feel as though you have been objectified and fetishized in the eyes of another person. Also, we addressed how one’s sense of self-esteem has a personal effect on his or her overall dating life.  

Check out this question one listener had for our Trix with the Fix segment:

“I’m an Afro-Latina woman with a very curvaceous Latina look. Because of my look, a lot of men tend to right away fetishize me and put me into that sex kitten hot Latina role. They right away want me to always be sexy, speak Spanish to them especially in the bedroom, and play that hot Latina role they’ve always dreamed of. I don’t want to be anyone’s fetish… I don’t even speak Spanish. How do I let these guys know that I actually am more than what they’ve fetishized me to be?

Sincerely,

I’m not your fetish… Bitch”

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The Book of Huey Podcast

The Book of Huey Podcast has the pleasure of introducing you to our host, Huey Booker. Originally from Cleveland, Ohio, Huey has been in the Washington, D.C. area since 2014. 

They have a dedicated aim and focus. Huey has some of the dopest, funniest, most inciteful conversations with his friends. Within all the shenanigans and jokes, there are frequent profound moments and lots of quotable gems. With the idea that other folks could benefit from, or at the very least, be highly amused by listening in on these convos, he created a safe, judgment-free space to discuss love, sex, life, dating, relationships, fuckery, and advice with ray honesty and humor.

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Agape

October 28, 2016

Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia, Storge, Pragma, Mania

So, my personal life has been poppin lately – hence the lack of posts.  We back on though and this week we’ll be discussing agape.  Agape is an unselfish love of all mankind that combines Eros + Storge.  In this type of love, individuals are willing to sacrifice anything for their loved one(s).  Agape is based on an unbreakable commitment and an unconditional, altruistic love.

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Mania

October 7, 2016

Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia, Storge, Pragma

We’ve talked a lot about love in ways that were all very healthy, descriptive, fun, and positive.  However, this is not always the case.  Again, love is challenging.  It’s confusing.  It can also be dark and dangerous.  This week we’re going to discuss mania.

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Pragma

September 30, 2016

Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia, Storge

We’ve been writing about love for quite some time now.  In many ways, being diligent and consistent has really helped me to reevaluate a lot of what I thought I knew about love and its many different expressions.  

This week, we’ll be discussing pragma or mature, practical love.  Pragma is about making compromises to help relationships work over time, as well as showing patience and tolerance.  It’s the kind of love that’s practical, mutually-beneficial, and endures through sickness and in health over the long-haul.  As a special surprise, I’m going to introduce our first guest contributor, M. Divine.

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Storge

September 21, 2016

Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus, Philia

Here’s a quick recap of everything we’ve talked about thus far in the last few weeks.  Love confuses a lot of people because we all mean so many different things when we use the word love.  Eros is all about romantic, sexual desire or lust.  Ludus is the all about the fun and excitement we feel when dating.  Philia is brotherly love that we have for friends and acquaintances.  This week we’re going to talk about storge.

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