Love Isn’t Enough: Eros, Ludus
So far we’ve talked about both romantic and playful love. Now, we’re going to talk about philia or brotherly love. Philia is the deep friendship or comradely bond that develops between coworkers, teammates, or soldiers in an army because of the shared experience that everyone has. It is the love we feel for people we strive with to achieve a shared goal – like fighting side by side on a battlefield against a common enemy. Philia is about showing loyalty, sacrificing, and sharing your emotions.
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September 7, 2016
Love Isn’t Enough: Eros
So, last week we talked about passionate, romantic love. This week we’re going to talk about ludus, but I have a slight confession to make. I kind of cheated. Ludus is actually Latin and not Greek, but whatever. It means “play, game, sport, training” and refers to the affection between children or young lovers.
While ludus is about passion, it more so encapsulates the idea of having fun with each other doing different activities. It encompasses all the teasing and flirting that goes on in the early stages of a dating relationship. It happens when you both are still testing out what it might be like to be together, falling in love and what not, but that’s where it all ends. You see, in ludus, there is no commitment or responsibility involved.
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August 31, 2016
Love Isn’t Enough
As I mentioned before, the ancient Greeks were very sophisticated in their understanding of the many different expressions of love. The first type that we’re going to talk about is eros. Eros was the Greek god of fertility and, in terms of love, constitutes a passionate, intense, and erotic or lustful desire for someone. In addition to its strong sexual and emotional components, eros is also marked by compassion, kindness, and consideration, as well as the desire to be emotionally and physically close to your romantic partner. It is this powerful sexual magnetism that draws two people together in the beginning stages of a new relationship sometimes described as the honeymoon phase.
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August 23, 2016
“Sanskrit has 96 words for love; ancient Persian has 80, Greek three, and English only one. This is indicative of the poverty of awareness or emphasis that we give to that tremendously important realm of feeling.” – Robert Johnson, “The Fisher King and the Handless Maiden”
Love isn’t enough. You might disagree with me and believe that love conquers all or whatever, and that’s your prerogative. At the end of the day, you have to do what makes the most sense for you, your worldview, lifestyle, and how they all impact the relationships that you think are important. I feel differently about it though. I have been in love. I believe in love. I have learned many things about love. I don’t pretend to be some expert so these are all just my opinions.
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